Siblings

Siblings

A note for you from Diana Alessandrini, who has twin sisters who both happen to have overwhelming charm, curiosity, and autism.

Welcome Siblings of Autism!

DianaAlessandriniMy name is Diana, and as you’ll come to find out as you go through our site, I have some major experience in the siblings with autism department.

So, believe me when I tell you this website as a whole is meant to be a reminder that you are not alone! It will serve as a place to connect with other siblingsread relatable blog posts, and submit your own stories as a therapeutic way of venting while helping others in the autism community who are experiencing the same frustrations or blessings that you are. You may also find that the other sections of the website complement this section with information on ways to develop a wholesome understanding of autism as a disorder.

If you or people you know have siblings with autism, then it should be evident that stress is a major factor in family, social, and every day life.

This stress can come in various situations, including:

  • Forms embarrassment,
  • Being the target of unusual or aggressive behavior,
  • Not being able to engage someone who you should be so close to naturally, and
  • Having unpredictable attention from your family members who seem to be preoccupied with your siblings who have more special needs than you.

Throughout this site there is a sea of resources and advice to help cope with the anger, frustration, and confusion that can surface when these stressful circumstances make your life seem more difficult at times than others.

Let’s be real: It can be really daunting to deal with the toll that these emotions can take, especially when you feel like there is nowhere to turn for help. Our mission and hope is that you turn here and let us lead you to a calm, knowledgeable state that will guide you through all the challenges that come with having a sibling(s) with autism.

From my personal experience, I have found that sometimes the stress that comes with handling everyday life with autism in my house makes me not even want to talk or think about autism more than I already have to. And I am here to say, that’s okay!

Sometimes just having some quiet time to yourself is important, but it is also important to keep in mind that there is an abundance of opportunities to get involved and embrace this autism journey, whether its raising awareness, volunteering, or more hands on approaches like Athletes 4 Autism and even hosting fundraising events. Not only do these experiences help those with little knowledge about autism gain important insight, but they can also bring you closer to a community that would serve as an amazing support system for you.

And at the end of the day, isn’t that all we really need? Someone to say “I get it” and “I’m here for you, too”?

As you go through this website we hope that you remember that there really is always someone willing to lend an ear or offer advice. Whether you talk to friends and family, or look through our pages — or even a little bit of both! — ask if you need help finding the answers to make your life better. 

You can ask me by leaving a comment on one of our Facebook page posts or sending me an email directly via family@theautismresearchfoundation.org.

Bottom line: The Autism Research Foundation is here for you.

I encourage you to read our blog to learn about recent autism science news that may impact your brother or sister, and to read a variety of funny, inspirational, and real-life stories written by other siblings in your autism community. (You’re going to love how much you can relate to our “Au-kward Moment of the Week” blog series!) And, hey, you may find that we all share way more similarities than differences!

Talk to you soon!

Diana